The Pill
Imagine you and I having the following conversation:- Me: Hi, How’s it going? You: Fine.
Me: Hey, I’ve got this new thing I’d like you to try.
You: Tell me more.
Me: Well, it’s a pill I think you will want to start taking.
You: What does this pill do?
Me: First of all, it is a known carcinogen. It is extremely likely you will get lung cancer due to this pill. It is going to cause a lot of other short- and long-term health problems as well. It will make your breath, hair and clothes stink. It will make a mess of your car. You will take this pill about 40 times a day. This pill, by the way, is addictive. Once you start taking it, it will be extremely difficult to stop. And a supply of pills will cost about $2 to $4 a day, depending on where you buy them.
You: I have to pay for this??? Are you kidding??? This pill sounds absolutely disgusting!!! Why in the world would I want to take it???
Me: It will make you think you are cool.
Why?
Let's start at the beginning - why do teenagers start smoking? If you ask teenagers, here are the four most common reasons:- Group acceptance - if their friends smoke, many teenagers will begin smoking simply to maintain their acceptance within the group. AKA "peer pressure".
- Image projection - there is definitely an "image" attached to smoking by advertising. For women it is one of sexiness and desirability, and for men it is one of rugged individualism, fun or coolness. If a teenager buys into that image, then smoking begins.
- Rebellion - many teenagers take up smoking because they know it annoys/bothers/infuriates their parents and other adults. There is also a certain element of "independence" or "doing what is not allowed" or "walking on the wild side" worked in as well.
- Adult aspirations - some teenagers believe that by smoking they are acting like an adult. If the teenager is raised in a community where most of the adults smoke, then this is perhaps a logical conclusion.
The Adult Mind
The "teenage mind" is much different from the "adult mind." All teenagers eventually figure this out - that is the point at which they start to become adults. But until a teenager turns on his or her adult brain and begins thinking like an adult, he or she is stuck with a teenage brain. The key concept here is that "being a teenager" is a temporary state meant to be outgrown. In other words, "being a teenager" can be equated to "being a child" at some level. The idea is for a teenager to outgrow teendom and become an adult. Once you understand that, you are on your way. But before that happens your "teenage mind" tends to be extremely non-rational and very reactive. Every single person who starts smoking is doing it because they are using their "teenage mind" to make the decision, rather than an adult mind. You can understand the difference between the teenage mind and the adult mind by looking at these two examples:- Teenage mind: "A couple of my friends have started smoking. I better start too or they will think I am uncool." (Reactive)
- Adult mind: "A couple of my friends have started smoking. Do I want to start smoking?" (Thinking)
- Who will I marry?
- How many children will I have?
- How will I dress?
- Where will I live?
- What kind of car will I drive?
- Will I go to college, and if so which one will I attend?
- What will be my major in college?
- What will I choose for my career?
- How much money will I make, and why?
- What will be my attitude toward life?
- Will I smoke? Will I take drugs?
- And so on...
Addiction
The problem for many teenagers, and for nearly every teenager who smokes, is that the choices are not conscious decisions - they are reactions. You can go back and change many of these decisions later, but smoking is not one of them because smoking is addictive. This fact of life helps answer the following important question: If no adult using their adult brain would ever start smoking, then why do you see millions of adults smoking everywhere you go? The reason is simple: Every adult smoker started smoking as a teenager because of a silly decision made by their teenage brain, but once addicted to cigarettes it is impossible to stop! That is the only reason you see adult smokers. No one in their right mind (that excludes, of course, a teenager using a teenager mind) would smoke if they didn't have to. But cigarettes are highly addictive so adult smokers have to smoke. Here are the four main reasons adult smokers would love to quit smoking:- Smoking has serious health consequences. On average, each minute of smoking reduces a person's life expectancy by a minute. When you consider that a two-pack-a-day smoker consumes on the order of 600,000 cigarettes in a lifetime, and it takes three to five minutes to smoke a cigarette, this is a significant factor.
- Smoking is addictive. Once you get hooked it is very difficult to stop. Once hooked, you have to stop every half hour or so and smoke another cigarette. You have no choice!
- Smoking is extremely expensive. Cigarettes range in price from a nickel to a dime each, so if you are consuming 40 a day the cost averages about $1,000 per year. There must be a better way to spend $1,000!
- Smoking has effects on personal hygiene. Cigarettes are messy and they make your hair, clothes and breath stink.
The Pill
Another way to understand smoking is to imagine that you and I having the following conversation:- Me: Hi, How’s it going? You: Fine.
Me: Hey, I’ve got this new thing I’d like you to try.
You: Tell me more.
Me: Well, it’s a pill I think you will want to start taking.
You: What does this pill do?
Me: First of all, it is a known carcinogen. It is extremely likely you will get lung cancer due to this pill. It is going to cause a lot of other short- and long-term health problems as well. It will make your breath, hair and clothes stink. It will make a mess of your car. You will take this pill about 40 times a day. This pill, by the way, is addictive. Once you start taking it, it will be extremely difficult to stop. And a supply of pills will cost about $2 to $4 a day, depending on where you buy them.
You: I have to pay for this??? Are you kidding??? This pill sounds absolutely disgusting!!! Why in the world would I want to take it???"
Me: It will make you think you are cool.
You: Oh, well, why didn’t you say so? Sign me up! Where can I get some???
If you are considering smoking, here is something to try: think about waiting until you are 20 to start using cigarettes. They will still be there - cigarettes are never going away. See what you think about them at that point. You will be amazed!
Go to the Table of Contents for The Teenager's Guide to the Real World.
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